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I settled before I ever really knew what it was like to be in love. There was a large part of me that really did mistake Sex dating app reviews relationship for love. But even then, there was something missing.

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If your relationship isn't everything you thought it would be, it can leave you with a lot of doubts. Is this really "The One" or am I just settling? According to experts, there is a fine line between settling and being realistic about love. If you know the differences, you can determine whether or not your partner is really the right one for you. This is a good thing. You just feel Beautiful lady ready adult dating Jackson Mississippi there may be something better out there for you.

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I was very, very good at settling in relationships. Taking what I could get was what I did when my standards were as low as my self-esteem.

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Falling in love again was not a part of my master plan. I was content with my life — more than content; I loved it.

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I loved myself, and I built a life I loved. The life I built was hard won after years of settling for so much less than I deserved. I was afraid a relationship would damage my power, reducing everything I loved about the life I had built.

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I enjoyed my life, and if sometimes I felt a pang of loneliness, I accepted it as part of the package. In a tale as old as time itself, I met someone who made me re-evaluate my happily single stance. I went Kansas city adult personals intrigued to interested to slipping and falling in love. I knew it would take work.

But I was sure from the moment that our eyes met that this one would be worth it. I had to learn to create boundaries and to maintain the life I had built while sharing it with a partner. I had to learn how to be a partner — to communicate more fully and to willingly participate in confronting conflict as it came up.

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I kept growing, continually surprised that he expected nothing less and never asked me to stop. Still, in the beginning, I was anxious. Once I realized I loved him, I then panicked that I could lose him. I already knew Looking to lick bbw pussy the greater the love the more risk there was that I could be hurt. The idea of experiencing his loss was overwhelming — even though the loss was hypothetical.

My maladaptive coping strategies kicked in as my body began to prepare in advance for the possible hurt that could come from this. I got anxious.

I began over-thinking and — sometimes — overreacting. I thought love hurt because I was so Dangers of online dating essay of loss that I began trying to protect myself from it. In the past, this was the part where I would be left, neglected, or turned against. I waited for it, braced and already hurting.

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I was too busy doing that by preparing myself for a hypothetical hurt to come. He sure as hell challenged me though. Not just to Free mobile dating and chatting sites on my own triggers but to talk about why the hell this part was so hard for me. But on the other side of that discomfort was an understanding that everything that had gone through my head was generated by past trauma, not my current situation.

The difference between being in love and settling

Months passed. Free pics ladyboy had to learn a new way to be. I had to stop letting every fear and feeling run away with me. I began to learn how to simply be in a relationship without thinking I had to get somewhere or brace myself for an ending.

Suddenly, I found myself settling — but not in the way I did in the past. Not a compromise. Not giving up. I learned how to love him without expecting him to leave.

How to stop settling in love

Although I know he still could. There are no guarantees.

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I can just love him and let him love me. I can breathe deeply Lady wants sex Round Hill enjoy the time we have together. I can tell him about my day and listen as he tells me about his. I show up with love and presence, and I can accept the same. Then, settle into it. Enjoy it. Stop carrying around the anxiety of past relationships into this new one.

Would you rather find an “okay” relationship right now or wait a few years and find one that fits like a glove?

Just be present for it. Keep building the life you love and see where it takes you. Keep enriching the partnership and see how it grows. But let go of trying to control it.

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